Before the Wedding!

Before the Wedding!

We’re Engaged! Holidays bring engagements and all the excitement they offer us, both now and in the future.  Initially discussions between fiancées often consists only of details about the wedding, day, venue, wedding party, or type of service.  Before beginning...
Suggestions For Healthy Arguments

Suggestions For Healthy Arguments

We may not think that arguing is healthy in a marriage or relationship. It can be very valuable if it is done appropriately. You may want to discuss how to improve your communication during an argument before your next argument to improve potential for healthy change....
Ode to a Solid Man

Ode to a Solid Man

His name was James and we all called him Jim. But for some reason my son, Brian, called him Mr. James. I tried to correct Brian but Jim said very forcefully to leave him alone and to let Brian call him Mr. James if he wanted to. And so he remained Mr. James, long...
Remember Passion?

Remember Passion?

When I was working as a substance abuse counselor, relationships often developed something like this: guy meets girl, guy and girl immediately have sex with each other. Week 2: guy moves into girl’s trailer and meets girl’s kids. Week 4 or 5: Guy and girl are fighting...
Don’t Be Afraid of Conflicts

Don’t Be Afraid of Conflicts

One of the issues I hear repeatedly is people saying they are afraid of conflicts so they avoid dealing with problems. Many people say they are afraid of what will happen if they approach the issue. People seem to believe that they have almost no choice in solving...