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About Me

Kim Alberts Mental Health Care Services Bradley Midlothian, IL

Kim Alberts, LCPC, CADC, CARN, RDDP is a registered nurse and counselor working since 1983 in chemical dependency, mental health issues, and trauma.

Kim has worked on in-patient and out-patient mental health units,intensive care units, chemical dependency units, and in private practice working with adults and adolescents.

My Services

Kim Alberts Mental Health Care Services Bradley Midlothian, IL

I began working with clients experiencing trauma and alcohol and drug abuse while working in the intensive care unit as a Registered Nurse. The frequency of drug and alcohol related accidents and injuries struck me and started my interest in working with clients experiencing issues of addiction, mental illness, and trauma.

Depression: How It Eats Away Relationships

Did you know that depression affects about 7% of the adult population in the United States?

One of the most common mental disorders in the world, depression is characterized by persistent sadness, loss of interest in pleasurable activities, appetite changes, sleep changes, pessimism, constant fatigue, and drainage of both physical and mental energy.

It is needless to say that depression can make everything look bleak – the sufferer not only loses interest in his daily activities and hobbies but also in people around him.

Although some people still do not consider depression as a ‘real’ illness, thankfully mental awareness is on the rise. Less understood, however, is its disastrous effect on human relationships.

When it comes to depression and relationships, it is a two-way street – while depression does surely affect relationships, the quality of relationships also impact the depressive state of a person.

First, let us discuss the several ways in which depression can negatively affect a relationship.

1.     Makes it difficult to share emotions

It is crucial to understand that depression is not only about feeling sad and low. It is also about suppressing all emotions – imagine the suffering of a person who has every negative feeling buried in his heart.

While communication and open sharing of emotions are major aspects of a relationship, depression can rob you of them. Not being able to share true feelings and thoughts with anyone makes the sufferer feel hopeless and push the people around him away, even if it is his partner.

With an increase in the communication gap between the two, it is easy to see how their relationship will suffer.

2.     Reduces intimacy

Depression also attacks another important facet of relationships, intimacy. Closeness and affection between two people is definitely a mainstay of a healthy, happy relationship.

Depression sucks out all positive emotions and makes it difficult to experience intimacy. Not only this, it also decreases the level of libido, making the sexual activities of the sufferer come to a halt. And a relationship without intimacy, love, and affection is

3.     Triggers anxiety

As if the symptoms of depression were not a lot to handle on their own, it tends to trigger the symptoms of other mental issues, such as anxiety. And a combination of depression and anxiety is deadly – it can cause the sufferer to blame everything on his partner and lash out at him.

4.     Gives way to behavioral issues

Depression can manifest itself both internally as well as externally. Internal manifestation refers to keeping all emotions to oneself while external manifestation is about expressing depression externally. The sufferer is likely to show an inappropriate behavior pattern that may prove harmful for himself or for others around him. Common behavioral issues include violence, self-harm, substance abuse, and infidelity. All these behaviors can give rise to several other serious relationship issues, thus making it fail.

Posing the risk of the aforementioned issues, depression makes it difficult to maintain healthy, fulfilling relationships. If your partner or anyone you know of is suffering from depression, be empathetic and make them feel that they matter and are not a burden. Be patient with them and support them in their struggles.